I NEED A CHANGE - HARSH TRUTHS THAT MAKE US BETTER PEOPLE (Edition 3)

Hello great and remarkable people!

MOTIVATIONAL MOMENT - There are times in life where it seems like we are consistently on the losing end of things. Life is designed as a conundrum of so many experiences: some positive, some negative but all for our benefit. Use the experiences of life to shift your life and to build you into what you desire to see. The reality is growth comes because of opposing force, without the opposition there will be no growth. You cannot be receptive to growth without being receptive to the opposition that causes that growth!

There was a song many years ago that said "sweep around your own front door before you try to sweep around mine." I think that song is a fitting song for today's harsh truth. We are living in a digital world that is socialized and connected. Not only do we now have access to the internet for information, we have access to the internet on particular things in this planet, sooner than later, people will be able look up you body temperature and any issues with your body by simply typing in your name. It's just not about reference anymore, it's about the internet of things specifically: PEOPLE!

Think about it for a moment, what types of shows are mostly on tv now? I mean it started with the Real World so many years ago but now just about every tv show is a reality based show peering behind the closed doors of people's lives and making it into a public spectacle. People are hating people simply based upon the characters that people play on reality based tv. Now, do not get me wrong, I love reality based tv just like anyone else, however, why can we not get something authentic, real, and not so full of drama? Why? Because we love drama, we love the read, we love the issues surrounding people's lives. It makes us feel better about our own lives and makes us seem better than some of these people because we see all their "behind the door drama" so we judge them when in reality if people put up some camera's in some of our homes we wouldn't be able to show face in our local community anymore!

What am I getting at...we ALL have issues and not only do we all have issues, we all have things that we need to work on not for other people's sake, but for our own sake! If our goal is to honestly be better people we must...

SEEK OUT THE FAULTS WITHIN OURSELVES AND CORRECT THEM!

Yes, we have to be introspective about our own issues and even when we seemingly have no way of correcting them, our goal must be seeking to correct them by any means necessary.

The reality is that many times the faults we find in others that we detest are not too far from the faults that we have in ourselves that we do not desire to acknowledge. We can no longer escape through the blame game, we must work through our own issues. Paul said to work out your own soul salvation with fear and trembling! What Paul was in essence saying to look at yourself and figure out the issue within you. It will cause fear but in the end you will be a better person!

So today I challenge everyone to look at yourself instead of lying to yourself! That's what we do instead of looking at ourselves, we look at the epitome of what we desire! Our harsh truth today is that you are liar and you are the first partaker of your personal lie! Stop lying to yourself and assume responsibility for becoming a better person FOR YOU!

Here's to exposure to the lie and liar and healing through the hurt of the false self...

Your Friend...The "Inner Healing" Lifestyle Coach
Tanya A. Alkhaliq, ThD


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I NEED A CHANGE 30 - HARSH TRUTHS THAT MAKES US BETTER PEOPLE (EDITION 2)

Hello great and remarkable people!

MOTIVATIONAL MOMENT - Ensuring that things get done can be a very daunting and scary process. Even when you have gone through all the pre-work, the post-production and desire of all the prework may not even yield the results for which you are seeking. In all of this, we have been conditioned to instead procrastinate and not do as we should do and ensure that we have done our very best but it starts with our mindset. The beginning mindset is that of motivation and encouragement. The foremost area of encouragement is your own self! Donald Lawrence wrote, "sometimes, you have to encourage yourself, sometimes you have to speak victory during the tests..." and this is what has to happen at the beginning of our plans and goals. Nobody can motivate you like you can motivate yourself, so motivate yourself by speaking to yourself and be encouraged to start the task at hand!

Lao Tzu once said, "The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." This proves just as true today as it did years ago when it was written. The issue: We do not want to begin that journey because we think it is too much of a task to do so. When we think something is too "tasking" we usually do not do well at that task and it's at that point that we need a reality check!

The reality check for today is not a nice one, it's downright rude, however, these are harsh truths to make us BETTER PEOPLE. It's not about what is nice but it is about helping each and every individual to make some much needed and desired changes in their lives. Have you read the newspapers, looked at the news, gone to a high school or an elementary school for that matter lately? Well if you have, then you know that we have to come up with some real solutions to hep people to identify with life and to assist in making change possible.

So what could be so harsh about making a change? Well when the change is all about you stepping up to the plate or taking a seat it gets to be a little more harsh as it hits close to home! So what does all of this mean? It means, "if you can't take the heat get out of the kitchen!"

Alec Baldwin in a speech he gave in a movie stated that he doesn't care if you're a nice guy! It doesn't matter if you're a good father, you should go home and play with your kids but, if you want to remain employed in that line of business they have to "close!"

What does it mean to close?
A lot of people have heard this term in life especially in association with the stock market or real estate. They close on a stock exchange deal or they close on a real estate exchange, basically, they are saying MAKE US MONEY! Closing is in essence bringing money into the business and ensuring the livelihood of those who work for the business and bringing a dividend for the investors into the business who own stock, shares, or some type of invested interest into the company! So, how does closing apply to us in life? How is a dividend going to help me in my life especially if it's not based on cash value and cash assets and therefore not marketable?

The Most Important Asset in the World!
Most people concern themselves with money way too much and way too often. Yes I'm aware that we have to pay bills, take our kids school shopping, mortgage, insurance, gas, food, lights, water, and we dare not forget about the entertainment on weekends and the like. We in the United States are a bunch of consumers and so the bottom line is the cash value but we neglect the inherent value of people: OF OURSELVES. The most important asset in the world is the capital of humanity and the investment that we have to allow ourselves to play the role.

If someone makes money from us, WE ALLOWED IT! So what are you going to do about someone making millions off of your singular investment while only giving you $2k a month for more that 160 hours of work? After bills you have no money left to LIVE LIFE!

There are so many people that says that if you don't have any money left over after you pay bills to do the things that you desire to do, then you are a responsible adult. That may be very true, however, the irresponsible adults are doing the things that we desire to do and although we may not have to deal with evictions and lights cut off, we then demonize them for "having fun" and being "irresponsible." How "responsible" is that of us?

It is from the median of both of these extremes that we can learn a valuable lesson...life is about responsibility but life is also about upward mobility and living as well! So how do we cope, what do we do...WE HAVE TO LEARN TO CLOSE!

Sometimes we have to close some doors on some jobs we have and take some steps in life that we do not wish to take. For instance, nobody wants to move back in with their parents but the reality is sometimes it's best to do so in order that you learn how to take care of yourself. Build yourself until you begin CLOSING! We must close if we are going to take advantage of the untapped potential found in humanity to not only lift ourselves up but to uplift someone else!

NOBODY CARES ABOUT ANYTHING THAT YOU DO UNTIL YOU CLOSE!

Yes it is rude but it is also honest as to the expectation of the world; however, the difference between me an the world is that the world says that it is wrong to tell you nobody cares about you and would instead like to see you consistently be a failure because they won't give you the tools needed to encourage yourself to keep moving. Most people will give up their dreams if they do not have some form of "negative" reinforcement to help propel them into encouraging themselves and that's where I come into let you know that it's not ok for you to keep failing! I desire above all things that you succeed so I give you what you need so that you will be able to recognize the inherent value of yourself and continue to push forward into success!

This is not about money...THIS IS ABOUT CLOSING FOR YOURSELF! Invest in your human capacity and watch your life begin to change! Nobody will EVER care about you, UNTIL YOU care about you and your desire to manifest the best in your own life...sometimes at the detriment of others! Yes...YOU have to learn to be selfish for yourself instead of being selfish to yourself more often!

Here's to freedom from fear and acceptance of your better self...

Your Friend...The "Inner Healing" Lifestyle Coach
Tanya A. Alkhaliq, ThD


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Tanya Alkhaliq is an intersex black woman who is a Life Redesign Expert with an emphasis in intersex issues and counseling while specializing in self-identity development, relationship issues, gender and sexual understandings, spiritual reformations, career choices, young-adult developmental issues, and issues pertaining to fear.

Tanya A. Alkhaliq, ThD
Author | Speaker | Minister | Life Redesign Expert