Jul 7, 2011

I NEED A CHANGE 24 - GET RID OF DEAD WEIGHT

Are you carrying around dead weight? No I'm not talking about the spare tire around your mid-section (although we need to deal with changing our habits in order to be proactive concerning our health), I'm talking about past relationships, resentments, hurts, anger, and the list goes on and on!

You know the signs of dead weight, everyone does but we all try to live in some fanciful world to make it seem as if we aren't carrying it around and so we do our best to simply not pay attention to it in hopes that it will just "GO AWAY!"

Well, I have some great news...YOUR DEAD WEIGHT CAN BE GONE! If you buy my patented "DEAD WEIGHT BE GONE" spray! All you have to do is spray it in your house three (3) times a day and after one week, all of that DEAD WEIGHT will dissipate and will never come back to haunt you again!

WHAT IN THE WORLD? I know, that was just not right was it, however, this is what we do in order get rid of everything else!

Allopathic medicine gets rid of the symptoms, at the expense of creating other symptoms which may be worse than the original symptoms! Lawyers don't usually get down to the problem at hand, they usually deal with the symptoms and that's the reason they are in courts. It's the exact same with us! Our models have been to TREAT THE SYMPTOMS BUT NEVER GET TO THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE ISSUE!

FIRST, THE SYMPTOMS...
1) Are you in the same place you were in a year or two or even five? Let's be honest now! Let's not force ourselves into lies! Ok, so we have to go there! Just because you're no longer homeless doesn't mean you have come out of the situation that you were in a year ago!

Ok so you're no longer in the shelter, GOOD FOR YOU! I'm proud of you, keep up the good work but it's not time to stop! Why? Well the fact that you can't afford to buy a decent meal or go to the store and get food to make a decent meal and being forced to live off of $.99 McDoubles from McDonald's and $.99 Spicy Chicken Nuggets from Wendy's tells me that you are still in the same situation.

Having to worry about whether or not your bills are going to get paid this month and not having enough money to cover ALL of your bills which means you could possibly become a person who recurs homelessness...YOU ARE IN THE SAME POSITION AS THE HOMELESS MAN/WOMAN WITH NO FOOD TO EAT OR ANYWHERE TO LIVE! IT'S NOT YOUR SITUATION THAT HAS CHANGED, IT IS YOUR ENVIRONMENT!

Let's not confuse environments with situations! Environments can change but if the situation (your mindset) is still poverty driven and unfocused, any environment can quickly become the prison from which you thought you escaped!

2) Displeasure and Stagnation, are they reigning supreme in your life? Do you sometimes feel like you just can't make it out of whatever you are in?

Let me ask you this, WHAT ARE YOU IN? WHEN DID YOU GET THERE? HOW DID YOU GET THERE? HOW ARE YOU GOING TO GET OUT?

A friend of mine asked me a VERY important question the other day...he said "What does KFC sale?" Of course I said "chicken." He asked me that same question over and over again with emphasis on different words and of course I responded but by the last time my answer wan't "chicken" it was "CHICKEN!!!!!" Now of course I see myself as a pretty smart person, however, stupidity had taken over right at that moment! He asked me...WHAT DO YOU SALE? I was STUMPED! I was like WOW, I DON'T KNOW WHAT I SALE! What is the point? I'm glad you asked!

The point that he was trying to make is that you may serve some things on the side due to all the talents and gifts with which you've been endowed, however, YOU SALE "CHICKEN!" I've come to the reality that I have the "CHICKEN," I just have to work on my spices in order to get the "CHICKEN" just right! What does that mean? THE BRAND OF ME HAS TO COMPLEMENT WHAT I'M SELLING! If you don't complement what you're trying to sale, YOU AREN'T GOING TO MAKE ANY SALES!

Our lack of mobility and enthusiasm is NOT the cause, that is a symptom of a deeper underlying issue! It is the issue of dead weight! Think about all the dead weight that you carry around with you and that you actually pick up along the way!

Family, friends, thoughts, relationships, debt are ALL DEAD WEIGHT! Don't get me wrong there are those who we cherish who add to the greatness of who we are and the pursuit of who we can be and push us as we push them, that's not dead weight! However, the family and friends that constantly upset us and tell us that we won't ever amount to anything, those thoughts of inferiority because of your environment, or even the blatant disrespect that you have developed for yourself over years of failure...ALL DEAD WEIGHT! What is in your life that is constantly holding you down and holding you back? What and who is attached to you who won't value your time, skills, expertise, friendship and are unappreciative in other areas of your life trying to rush you when you need to take your time while at the same time not even attempting to make an effort to help you be a successful...WHAT DO YOU SALE AGAIN?

It's time...RIGHT NOW! YES NOW! It's time, CUT THE DEAD WEIGHT! No reason to keep it, YOU CAN LIVE AND SURVIVE WITHOUT THEM! Yes some situations in your life may need to change, yes you may have to get up a little early in the morning to catch the bus but hey, you'll have achieved a new level of independence and social responsibility to UPLIFT YOURSELF!

Make a fresh start TODAY! Don't wait until tomorrow, tomorrow is a figment of your imagination and yesterday was a spring for today and no longer exists! When you realize that all you have is this very moment of existence, live in that moment as if it is the last moment of your life! LIVE THAT MOMENT TO THE HIGHEST! You may want to be a help but how can you help someone if you don't have anything to help them with? You don't even have yourself, someone else has you and you're playing the puppet!

The truth is...YOU ARE HOLDING YOURSELF BACK! People can only do that which you allow them to do, you have control over the decisions you make and you decide what/who impacts you and what/who doesn't!

You have to make a choice and the as far as the dead weight...CUT THE ROPE! The message is you're either going to begin climbing or you're going to fall! If you find someone else to become dead weight, that's fine but no longer will I be your target market!

We have to learn to walk and when we walk, we must only allow others around us who are WALKING! You have to pay close attention though! Some people are walking but they are walking backwards, there are those on the side of the road trying to get up to walk. Encourage them but don't help them up, tell them to come on and follow in your footsteps but THEY MUST GET UP AND BEGIN THE WALK WITHOUT ASSISTANCE! Be careful of who you allow to walk with you and who is walking around you! Make sure that you are both walking into SUCCESS!!!

When it's all said and done, GET UP AND GO FOR A WALK! Clear your mind, be at peace with nature, and say to yourself, "I NEED A CHANGE FROM DEAD WEIGHT!" It's not about your environment, it is about your situation (mindset)! You can put a person with the situation (mindset) of a billionaire into the environment of a homeless shelter and within a year, he'll own his own shelter! You can put a person with a situation (mindset) of a poverty pimp into the environment of a fortune 500 company and within 6 months, the company will be bankrupt!

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Rabbinit Tanya A. Alkhaliq - "Dr. T"
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Tanya Alkhaliq is an intersex black woman who is a Life Redesign Expert with an emphasis in intersex issues and counseling while specializing in self-identity development, relationship issues, gender and sexual understandings, spiritual reformations, career choices, young-adult developmental issues, and issues pertaining to fear.

Tanya A. Alkhaliq, ThD
Author | Speaker | Minister | Life Redesign Expert

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